Very few couples get to celebrate their 90th anniversary. It’s a milestone that’s almost beyond comprehension for many of us, yet it’s always going to be the goal from the moment we say, ‘I do!’

Yes, if you’re reading this during the lead-up to your 90th wedding anniversary, you’re in a very exclusive club. In fact, it’s so exclusive that only a handful of couples get the privilege of doing so. Yet here you are, about to do exactly that. How utterly amazing and deepest congratulations to you both!

Just like with every single one of your previous anniversary milestones, your 90th anniversary is also associated with a themed gift. Depending on whom you ask, that theme can vary between granite and diamond – two very different types of gift! But, both are packed with meaning and are totally appropriate to give to your other half when celebrating this immense milestone.

But, what kind of gift should you give for a 90th anniversary? Should you stick to the theme? And what sort of gift can you give that’s granite aside from a new kitchen worktop? In this article, we’re going to let you know all about the 90th anniversary traditions and give you some ideas to help you choose something perfect for your partner.

To learn more about all the different anniversary gifts for all the different milestones in a marriage, read our complete year-by-year wedding anniversary gift guide.

What are traditional and modern gifts for a 90th wedding anniversary?

The traditional and modern 90th wedding anniversary gifts

90 years of marriage is an achievement which you and your partner should be screaming about from the rooftops. No doubt the two of you have plans to celebrate with family and friends, but what about a gift? Do you know what the traditional and modern gifts are when celebrating 90 years? They’re filled with extra special meaning, which can elevate your gift to be even more amazing than it will already be. The themes also lend themselves well to creativity, so you can choose something your partner will love.

Traditional 90th anniversary gift – Granite or diamond

The traditional 90th anniversary gift changes depending on whom you ask, but it’s often considered that there are two: granite or diamond. So, go for whichever one you like the sound of most – or even both, if you fancy!

Granite is a great theme because it’s the first time in 90 years it’s been a traditional gift. It’s also lovely because it represents strength and durability, which you absolutely have by the bucket load since you’ve made it to your 90th anniversary with your love.

Diamond is also a brilliant theme because, well, it’s diamond! Diamond has made an appearance at previous milestones by being themes at your 10th, 60th and 75th anniversaries. It represents beauty, strength and durability, so has a very similar meaning to granite… only diamonds look way nicer when set in a ring.

Modern 90th anniversary gift – Granite or diamond

The modern 90th anniversary gift is also granite or diamond. Granite is an unusual theme to associate with a romantic occasion, but you can still have fun with it. And, of course, you can never go wrong with a beautiful diamond.

90th anniversary gemstone – Diamond

The traditional gemstone when celebrating your 90th anniversary is diamond, because only the most incredible gemstone could possibly be good enough for this mammoth milestone. Diamond is one of the four precious gemstones (along with ruby, sapphire and emerald), which means it can be expensive. But, it’s also hugely popular, so there are loads of choices out there. Diamond jewellery is always going to be a brilliant gift to give, no matter the occasion.

90th anniversary flower – There isn’t one

As with many of your recent big milestone anniversaries, there isn’t a traditional flower associated with your 90th anniversary. This might be a little disappointing, but if you love to give your other half flowers, you shouldn’t let it put you off. Flowers are a fantastically romantic gift, so just because they’re not traditional, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give them if you want to. There are also ways to tie flowers into the theme to give your floral gift a little more meaning.

How do you choose a gift for a 90th wedding anniversary?

Because your 90th anniversary is one of the most incredible out there, you might think you need to give an amazing gift to reflect the magnitude of the occasion. It probably feels like a big decision, because it’s the rarest of all the anniversaries. And with two great themes to choose from (as well as everything else out there), it can be tricky to choose. Before you make your decision, think about the following considerations:

Have you and your partner always given each other gifts linked to the traditional or modern themes? If so, then you might be keen to continue with that tradition and give something associated with diamond or granite.
Have you agreed on a specific budget? Granite and diamond are two very different gifts which suit a range of budgets, so this might sway your decision.
Do you want to give your partner a personalised gift? Both are a little tough to personalise, but there are ways around it. But it’s not as easy as with previous anniversary themes.
Has your partner asked you for something specific? If so, linking what they’re hoping for to one of the themes might make your decision harder.

Is a couple in your life about to celebrate the magical milestone of 90 years of marriage? It could be your parents, your grandparents, your great grandparents, or even your great great grandparents! Whoever it is, you no doubt want to treat them to a little something, and you might even wonder whether or not you can give them something associated with granite or diamond. Well, the simple answer is, yes! You’re more than welcome to join in on the fun. And the couple will no doubt appreciate the extra meaning behind your special gift.

25 ideas for a 90th wedding anniversary gift

With your anniversary on the horizon, you might be on the hunt for the perfect gift so you can show your partner what 90 years of marriage means to you. But, where do you start? Both granite and diamond are interesting themes, but what sort of gift might you want to give for such a special occasion? To help give you a little inspiration, we’ve listed 25 ideas for 90th anniversary gifts below.

10 traditional and modern gifts for a 90th wedding anniversary

The traditional and modern gifts when celebrating 90 years of marriage are granite or diamond. These are two very contrasting themes, but have the very similar meanings of strength and durability. If you’d like to give your partner something related to one of these themes, here are 10 suggestions to get you started.

1. A couple on stone heart sculpture

For a beautiful way to mark your special anniversary, a couple on stone heart sculpture really encapsulates the feeling of being together for so long. It’s not made from granite, but it has that stone-like appearance and would look lovely displayed somewhere in your home.

2. A granite garden ornament

A brilliant choice for a 90th anniversary gift is a granite garden ornament, which can sit outside and act as a constant reminder of your big day. And the best thing is, there are different ornament designs available, so you shouldn’t have much trouble finding something your partner loves.

3. A granite bowl

A granite bowl is full of character and is totally unique, and can be used anywhere in your home from a fruit bowl to a serving dish.

4. A Japanese granite garden bench

Another lovely choice of gift that will sit in your garden, a Japanese granite garden bench offers you and your other half a spot to sit and enjoy each other’s company and think about the incredible life you’ve built together over 90 years.

5. Granite whisky stones

If your partner loves the odd glass of whisky, then granite whisky stones make for the perfect gift. They keep their whisky cold while not watering it down, so you partner gets to enjoy their drink exactly how they like it.

6. A set of diamond Royal Scot Crystal wine glasses

For a great way to enjoy a glass of bubbles on your anniversary, you can’t get any more on theme than by giving your love a set of diamond Royal Scot Crystal wine glasses.

7. A diamond watch

A truly luxurious way to spoil your partner on your anniversary is by giving them a diamond watch. They’re often very pricey, but you can get some that are more reasonable and suit three-figure budgets.

8. A diamond ballpoint pen

The ultimate high-end gift, a diamond ballpoint pen is classy, comfortable and writes like a dream.

9. A crushed diamond photo frame

For an affordable on-theme gift, print out your favourite photo and frame it in a crushed diamond photo frame. It makes for a fantastic gesture that doesn’t cost the Earth.

10. A diamond vase

Another brilliant way to spend a small amount but still give something in keeping with the theme, a diamond vase ticks two boxes – because it also gives you a chance to fill it with your other half’s favourite flowers!

5 personalised gifts for a 90th wedding anniversary

Many people like to give their partners a personalised gift on their 90th anniversary. Customising something to include their name, a message or a picture can take an ordinary gift and make it extraordinary. But when it comes to the themes of diamond and granite, where are you supposed to start? They might not be the easiest themes to work with, but they’re not impossible. So, here are five ideas for personalised 90th anniversary gifts.

1. A personalised granite plaque

A personalised granite plaque can include any kind of engraving you like, such as a message and even a picture. It makes for a great piece to display at home and remind you of your incredible achievement.

2. A personalised granite coaster

A brilliant low-cost and on-theme personalised gift for your 90th anniversary is a personalised granite coaster. It’s also something your partner can use every single day.

3. A personalised diamond paperweight

A personalised diamond paperweight is a great way to give your partner an affordable and customised diamond, which is both practical and looks brilliant.

4. A personalised 3D diamond crystal cube

Immortalise the two of you in a totally unique way with a personalised 3D diamond crystal cube, which you can elevate even further with a light base.

5. Personalised diamond jewellery

You don’t get many opportunities to give personalised diamond jewellery, so if it’s something your partner would love, then take the opportunity when you find it. Personalised diamond jewellery is always going to be special, and is a surefire way to put a smile on your partner’s face.

5 90th anniversary jewellery gifts that contain diamond

When diamond is one of the traditional themes of an anniversary, it can open you up to a rather obvious choice: diamond jewellery. Diamonds are absolutely gorgeous and are incredibly popular, so they usually go down exceptionally well. The only thing is, they can be rather expensive, so it completely depends on your budget as to whether or not you want to give one. That being said, not all diamond jewellery has to cost loads; it just depends on the type of jewellery and the size and clarity of the diamond. If you’re thinking of giving your other half a piece set with diamonds, here are five ideas to consider.

1. A diamond eternity ring

A diamond eternity ring is an anniversary classic. And the thing is, because you’ve spent 90 years together, it’s just about as long as any couple has spent married, so an eternity ring would be a pretty ideal choice!

2. A diamond necklace

There’s something very special about a diamond necklace, and with so many different designs and styles to choose from, you shouldn’t have a hard time finding something suitable for your partner.

3. A diamond bracelet

Diamond bracelets are a class act, and are often great for being compatible with varying budgets. They’re also subtle and something that your partner can wear no matter the occasion.

4. A pair of diamond earrings

For something brilliantly attention-grabbing, a pair of diamond earrings is always going to go down well.

5. Diamond cufflinks

To add a touch of sparkle and class to your other half’s suit, a pair of diamond cufflinks is smart and sophisticated, and a subtle way to call back to your 90th anniversary.

Because diamond is one of the most popular gemstones there is, you can walk into practically any jeweller and browse a huge range of pieces, from rings to brooches. Not only that, but you should also not have any trouble finding diamonds set in your partner’s favourite precious metal. Take a trip to your local high street or independent jewellers to see what they have to offer. Or, take a look at our fabulous range of jewellers right here on Bridebook, many of which have their own amazing selections of diamond jewellery.

5 floral-inspired gifts for a 90th wedding anniversary

Flowers are an anniversary classic. Even though there might not be a traditional 90th anniversary flower, that shouldn’t stop you from giving your partner a brilliant bouquet or a romantic rose. Or, you could even get creative and incorporate one of the themes into your floral gift to give it even more special meaning. Here are five ideas to help you make that happen.

1. A white floral arrangement

Treat your partner to a bouquet that has the clarity and sparkle of a beautiful diamond with a white floral arrangement.

2. A granite flower

For a touching gift taken straight from a fairytale, a granite flower is a lovely little gift which you can keep in your garden and is guaranteed to never wilt.

3. A Swarovski crystal rose

How can you make a rose even more stunning? By choosing a Swarovski crystal rose, of course! It’s delicate and striking and would look amazing displayed somewhere at home.

4. A floral diamond ring

Combine your love for giving flowers with one of the traditional themes and spoil your partner with a floral diamond ring. It’s a touching gesture with double the meaning, and looks absolutely amazing.

5. A bouquet of beautiful white roses

Roses are a well-known symbol of love, but when combined with the purity and symbolism of diamond, they take on a whole new and deeper meaning. A bouquet of white roses is a twist on an anniversary staple.

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